Mary was a single, full-time working mother to Jack, a 14 year old. Mary had fallen into a typical pattern I see many parents of kids with ADHD fall into:
Jack learned in elementary school that if he used learned helplessness and emotional manipulation he could avoid any non-preferred task. The result of this was Jack never developed the resiliency to persevere through non-preferred tasks, he was completely over-dependent on Mary to act as his executive functioning. Worst of all, he learned that he could manipulate his mother through suicidal threats.
Often, when parents of kids with ADHD stop enabling learned helplessness, kids "up the ante", by resorting to emotional manipulation:
"𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣'𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙢𝙚."
"𝙄'𝙢 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙥𝙞𝙙 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣'𝙩 𝙙𝙤 𝙞𝙩."
"𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡."
"𝙄'𝙡𝙡 𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙢𝙮𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙖𝙪𝙡𝙩."
I've never met a kid who develops resiliency or confidence through parents using a permissive/indulgent parenting approach, enabling their learned helplessness or feeing into emotional manipulation.
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