A different perspective on therapy for boys, and boys with ADHD - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt



Dear Son,
You have ADHD, therefore either myself or a therapist is going to attach a speculative narrative to you that must be accurate.

Here's what it is:
You must feel bad about yourself because you have ADHD. You behave this way because you don't express your feelings like an adult woman, but once you do, your behavior should improve.
You will need to go to see a therapist, who (regardless of their gender) has never learned how to make therapy welcoming to you, or how to effectively work with you in a way that's congruent with male brain development. You will be expected to come to an office that feels unwelcoming to you. You'll be asked questions where you're expected to access emotional language on-demand (despite the fact that's not congruent with how most boys' brains work), and access your non-verbal working memory (future thinking skills) to utilize the "coping skills" the therapist teaches you. (Even though that's incongruent with your "executive function age", as well as how people with ADHD most effectively generalize skills).

When that doesn't happen as we expect, we'll create more speculative narratives about you: "𝘏𝘦'𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘢𝘭", "𝘏𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱 𝘺𝘦𝘵","𝘏𝘦'𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴." etc.

🤔Any questions as to why males drop out of therapy at a much higher rate than females?
🤔Any questions as to why the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend individual therapy for kids as part of ADHD treatment?

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁𝘀: 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘣𝘰𝘺𝘴 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘙𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦 𝘚𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘊𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 & 𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘉𝘰𝘺𝘴 & 𝘔𝘦𝘯, 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘋𝘳. 𝘔𝘢𝘳𝘬 𝘒𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘢. 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘊𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘛𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘉𝘰𝘺𝘴: 𝘈 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘔𝘢𝘳𝘬 𝘒𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘢, 𝘔𝘢𝘵𝘵 𝘌𝘯𝘨𝘭𝘢𝘳-𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘴𝘰𝘯, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘈𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘶𝘳 𝘏𝘰𝘳𝘯𝘦. (𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘴.) Training for therapists is on my agenda as well.


 

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