I find this kind of post (that I see increasingly on social media ) disconcerting. It uses "black or white thinking" to convey that if you discipline your children you are disconnecting from them and causing them to lose confidence. The post in this photo encourages a parenting style that has shown to have negative outcomes, and does so through using words like "trauma". (𝘚𝘦𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘵𝘰𝘮 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵.)
𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗:
In many years of doing this work the here's the outcome I see when parents of kids with a more impulsive/hyper profile of ADHD utilize this parenting style: They reach out for help when their child is about 14/15 and are desperate because their child's behaviors have controlled their home, caused problems in marriages, sibling relationships and made home life unbearable for the rest of the family. Every year I get emails from parents of older teens asking if their son (who they admit is irresponsible or completely prompt-dependent) can be a counselor at my camp. (𝘚𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘱𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 18 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺𝘴𝘪𝘵 𝘩𝘪𝘮?) For kids with a more inattentive profile, in my experience this parenting approach is a catalyst for excessive marijuana use after high school, in my experience.
I took this post from a Parenting Coach on social media. This person's credentials include being a parent and a "certified parent coach". 𝙋𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙢𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙨 (𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙪𝙖𝙡) 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙣𝙤 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚, 𝙙𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙙𝙚𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙨, 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨, 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙭𝙖𝙢𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙪𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙞𝙚𝙡𝙙𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙧𝙚 𝙖 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚.
Kids who struggle with emotional regulation need to feel emotionally safe, they need to feel contained by their family who are responsible for teaching them how to function in the world.
The path of least resistance is easiest to take when it's rebranded as "connection" and "protection". It will keep your children happiest with you, it will avoid conflicts. In my professional experience it it setting kids up to be completely unprepared to deal with a world that will not accommodate or indulge them.
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