Why it's so difficult for families to find effective help for their child with ADHD (Trust me, it's not your fault) - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt
Before the launch of my new parent behavior training program, Raising Great Dudes which will be at the upcoming membership site I wanted to help you understand why it is so incredibly difficult for families to find effective help for their kids with ADHD.
This graphic outlines the typical trajectory I hear from families on a weekly basis, the recommendations provided by the American Academic of Pediatrics (in my career I've heard of these recommendations provided to families twice), and how the ADHD Dude membership site will provide you with the most cost-effective information you need to effective address ADHD-related challenges (behaviors, executive function skills, social skills, etc.)
Think about this:
1. From the time parents are provided a diagnosis they are almost NEVER provided with the American Academy of Pediatrics treatment recommendations. Instead, they are referred to an individual therapist, social skills groups, ADHD coach, etc.. (because professionals are not familiar with the AAP research & recommendations.) To make matters worse, parents are provided with a very elementary explanation of ADHD. Kids are almost never provided with a relatable understanding of how their brain works.
2. Without proper information, families often put their child in individual therapy, per the recommendation of professionals.
3. No type of individual counseling/therapy has been shown to be effective in addressing ADHD. Kids are often the "identified patient" meaning parents and therapists view the child's behaviors/executive functioning/social learning challenges as the child's "problem" to be addressed through therapy.
4. In the extremely rare chance that "Behavior Therapy" is recommended per the AAP guidelines, many parents do not know what this vague term means. They may think it means working with an in-home "Behavior Specialist" (no), they may think it means their child needs individual therapy to address their behaviors (no), the may think it means Applied Behavior Analysis (no).
5. The may join Facebook parent groups where parents share well-intended but bad advice, misinformation, etc. which can leave them feeling confused. They may purchase gimmicks that are micro-targeted to them in Facebook/Instagram ads.
Here's the bottom line:
-You're not doing anything wrong.
-You haven't done anything wrong.
-You may not know what questions to ask that would give you clarity around addressing the biggest "pain points" you deal with at home.
-You may still be under the assumption that if your son/daughter has some challenging behaviors they should be addressed through individual therapy (Not according to the AAP).
I have some idealistic goals for 2021:
-I want to revolutionize ADHD treatment and bring it into the 21st century.
-I want parents and professionals to shift their thinking in order to stop pathologizing ADHD as a "psychological disorder" despite the fact the health care system views it as such. Rather, I want it to be viewed as a learning issue, that typically requires medication management.
-I have a model to make counseling "male friendly" so guys understand they can get help in a way that feels comfortable for them, because it was designed for them.
Am I too idealistic? Too "all over the place"? I don't think so but I also need to make a living in the meantime which is why I'm creating the ADHD Dude membership site.
I want families to have a "one stop shop" to get the effective strategies and support they need from the comfort of their home, at a price point that is equivalent to a therapy session co-pay, yet offers so much more value. I am designing Raising Great Dudes and my upcoming webinars to provide practical solutions, in the most clear and concise way possible.
Throughout this upcoming year, I look forward to learning from you, your kids and how I can best be of service to your family.