𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀) 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗. - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt
𝗤: Do you have an executive function webinar series for my son's age?
𝗔: It wouldn't work and here's why: Parents need to create the "scaffolding" to help their kids improve executive functioning. Kids cannot improve their executive functioning by watching a webinar, that is called "passive learning", rather than "active learning". Creating this scaffolding is active learning. Parents need to learn how to use language to help build executive function skills. if you don't change the way you use language, your son or daughter with ADHD will remain prompt-dependent on you. Changing the way you use language combined with you putting scaffolding in place is how your child is going to improve his/her executive function skills.
𝗤: Can you recommend a book for my son to read to help him improve his executive function skills.
𝗔: You can't improve your executive function skills through reading a book. Again, parents have to create the scaffolding, regardless of their son/daughter's age. Furthermore, the ADHD executive function books for kids are too text heavy and not visual. Your son would probably find reading a dictionary more mentally simulating. (Trust me on this, I've seen all of them). Not to mention, boys with ADHD will typically not read things that do not interest them.
𝗤: I bough (the best selling executive function book on Amazon) which I found to not be very helpful. I'm skeptical about investing money into anything else given that the best seller on Amazon wasn't very practical.
𝗔: Trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. I've heard that from every parent who has purchased this book or other ADHD/Executive Function books on the market. Most focus on academic organization skills and completely ignore families biggest "pain points" at home such as getting off video games without a fight, teaching kids how to get through daily routines without constant prompting, developing resiliency to persevere through non-preferred tasks, learning how to feel time as a concrete concept.
𝗤: I'm in some ADHD Facebook groups for parents of kids with all type of challenges (ADHD, autism, anxiety, SPD, etc..). All the parents in the group suggest the "countdown timer with the red in it", hanging up checklists around the house, reward charts. None of those things have worked for more than a few days.
𝗔: First thing, that "countdown timer with the red in it" is useless. It can't teach how to "feel" time, don't use it.
In regards to the Facebook groups you mentioned, I encourage families to stay away from the "one size fits all" approach that lumps all kids with neurodevelopmental challenges together into one group. While executive function challenges are not diagnosis-specific, the approach parents needs to take varies greatly. I know this because I have a tremendous amount of experience working with kids with Asperger's/higher-verbal autism and held the credential of Certified Autism Specialist (which I let go because I solely focus on ADHD now). The way I teach strategies to families of kids with Aspergers/autism is different than the way I teach to families of kids with ADHD. While 80% of people with an autism diagnosis also meet the criteria for ADHD they present differently and need strategies taught differently.
𝗤: Should my son be receive a consequence when he does things like forget to turn in his homework?
𝗔: I would ask you: If he struggled with math would you give him a consequences for getting a math problem wrong? Of course not. It's the same premise. Punishing a kid for lagging executive function skills does not teach them anything. Having him/her experience natural consequences if fine, punishments because of how his/her brain works is not helpful.
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