Teaching kids how Oppositional Defiant Disorder is just a description of behaviors - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt



A conversation I had at camp this summer

𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟭: (𝗮𝗴𝗲𝟭𝟮): I have ADHD & ODD.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: Oh.
𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟮 (𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟭𝟯): Yeah I have ODD also.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: So what does ODD mean?
𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟭: I don't know.
𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟮: Opposition something..I don't really know.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻:So ODD means Oppositional Defiant Disorder. It's describes when someone has a hard time making their brain be flexible so they argue and don't do what's asked of them sometimes. A lot of kids with ADHD have a hard time making their brain be flexible, that's really normal.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: (to Camper 1): I don't think ODD really describes someone who helps other kids out as much as you did at fishing yesterday and has done everything I've asked them to do and is always helpful.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: (to Camper 2): And I don't think ODD describes someone who volunteers to carry the lunch bag when no one else volunteers and doesn't argue about things.
𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟮: Well I give my parents a hard time a lot.
𝗖𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝟭: Yeah, me too.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: O.K. so you might have a harder time making your brain be flexible with your parents. That's part of ADHD for a lot of kids.
It bothers me when I hear parents say, "𝘔𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘖𝘋𝘋", or "𝘔𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘈𝘋𝘏𝘋 & 𝘖𝘋𝘋" because I realize that what I explained to these guys has not been explained to parents by mental health professionals.
𝘖𝘋𝘋 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺. 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘢𝘨𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭. It could also be the result of anxiety, or a need for control, due to earlier adverse childhood experiences (ACEs).
I don't believe in heaping diagnostic labels on kids. Does that provide solutions to families? Does it help them understand the "why" behind their kid's behavior any better?
I'm trying to move the ADHD field forward by teaching families that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental challenge of lagging skills, not a series of labels to place on a developing brain.
My upcoming webinar series, 𝘙𝘢𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘎𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘋𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘴 is going to be different than any other behavioral therapy/parent training program out there. I'm excited to share it with you.
👍🏼 𝗣𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗 𝗗𝘂𝗱𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱. (𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘣𝘰𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘴.)
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