Helping kids with ADHD learning to persevere through non-preferred tasks - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt
Father: He can spend 3 hours figuring out a song on the guitar but when it comes to doing a chore at home he does half of it at most. I've been teaching for over 20 years. I've seen plenty of capable but lazy kids, that's Justin.
Ryan: I think the word "lazy" connotes a character flaw, but even worse is that I think it sends kids the message: "You're choosing to have difficulty sustaining attention to things that are not interesting to you." Difficulty sustaining attention to non-preferred tasks is one of the core aspects of how the ADHD brain works. I don't know of any kids who improve their resiliency to persevere through boring tasks by telling them that they're lazy.
The conversation I had with Justin's father is one I've had many more times with fathers than mothers. I have even had this conversation several times with fathers who are teachers, like Justin's father.
Learning how to persevere through non-preferred tasks is a critical life skill that individuals with ADHD need to learn if they're going to be successful. While ADHD medications can help tremendously with this, people with ADHD also need to learn how do persevere through non-preferred tasks in a way that works with their brain, not against it.
As the saying goes, "Pills don't teach skills." There needs to be a combination of the two.
In Webinar 4 of Executive Function Crash Course for Parents: Helping your child learn to get through non-preferred tasks I teach a strategy for parents to help their son or daughter learn to persevere through non-preferred tasks, in a way that works for them. It's not complicated to learn, you just have to stick with it to see results.
Parents create the scaffolding for kids to improve their executive functioning, you can't hand kids a book and expect it to happen independently. "Talk therapy" (as many of you have shared with me) isn't going to provide you with these strategies. I've found that a lot of the suggestions some professionals as well as parents in ADHD Facebook groups give each other encourage enabling over-dependence on adults to act as a kid's executive functioning.
The strategies taught in Webinar 4, as well as the other webinars teach parents specifically what to do, in the least labor-intensive way possible. It took me a long time to create these webinars. I revised them multiple times, because I wanted to make them as easy as possible to implement and give parents only the information they need.
No "fluffy stuff", checklists, reward charts or other strategies that don't work.
Life skills often take a really long time to learn, and that's okay. The earlier you start teaching your child to get through non-preferred tasks the better.
Learn more & watch a video about the series: https://adhddude.com/executive-function/
All webinars are available, you need to scroll past the sold out sections.