Dude Talk Video- Are you an "armchair quarterback" - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt


Stephen, the intellectually gifted 10 year old who was an "armchair quarterback".
Stephen was a 5th grade student who tested in the intellectually gifted range for intelligence. Stephen had often reported to his parents through his years in school how he was treated unfairly by his classmates. This began in Kindergarten and never stopped. Stephen's parents believed there must be validity to what he was saying given his above average intellect.
Stephen's complaints became more frequent in 5th grade as his teachers required the class to do a lot of group work. As a result, Stephen often told his parents how the other students in the group never followed his ideas and complained about being bullied during group work. Again, because of Stephen's intellect his parents believed there must be some validity to what he was saying because they did not understand that someone with above average intelligence could have lagging perspective taking skills.
During a parent-teacher conference Stephen's teacher explained to his parents that Stephen expected others' to always comply with any idea he had and would become irritated when other students didn't wan't to follow his ideas. He was often critical of his classmates ideas and many students quietly requested to not have Stephen in their groups due to his inflexibility and criticisms.
Here's what Stephen's parents didn't understand until this point:
>Most kids do not find superior intellect to be an endearing quality in their classmates, they simply see it as matter-of-fact.
>They assumed that Stephen's classmates would be as enamored with his intellect as they were thus they would always be receptive to his ideas.
Stephen needed significant help improving his perspective taking skills and cognitive flexibility. I taught him the concept of being an "armchair quarterback" to illustrate how his classmates view his behaviors when working in groups. I also shared this concept with Stephen's teachers so they could use similar language with him in class. Stephen improved slowly but steadily.
I suggested to Stephen's parents to never praise his intellect, rather they should praise his flexibility and when he shows that he's thinking of others as these skills do not come naturally to him.
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This Dude Talk video is about helping kids understand the concept of being an "armchair quarterback" and how other kids may respond to this type of behavior.
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