In my latest Dude Talk video I talk about using your "brain coach" to help figure out the size of the problem.
This takes a lot of work and the expectation is not that kids do it automatically, rather that they understand the concept of using self-directed talk to put problem size in a relevant context when they're escalated.
Keep in mind, as adults we can't always do this so our expectations of our kids needs to be realistic.
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